Forgiveness

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you." - Lewis B. Smedes

Overcoming Life's Difficulties

To judge yourself or your situation in any negative way is pure foolishness. You need to accept yourself for exactly what you are. You must accept any mediocrity, shortcomings, inferiorities, business and personal situations, or other issues. To judge them and get emotional or to blame circumstances is merely an affirmation of weakness. This does not mean you cannot change things. However if you wish to change things, you have to know where to start from. So all your pains, misgivings, letdowns, disappointments, and weaknesses can be like your teacher or starting point.

You take yourself exactly as you are and say, "This is me and I like myself. I don't care what anyone else thinks. It's not my problem. It's really theirs. If they want to be upset about something in me well that's just the reflection of them. Why should I Care? Why should I take it away from them?"

You can list your problems one by one so long as you do not dwell on them negatively. Do not let any emotion about them creep into you at all. They just simply are like the birds that shirk away in the distance they sell them listen to and thus they don't bother you. Your shortcoming should be like those birds. They should not bother you. You should just simply realize what you want to change and change it. This is not to say that it's easy or that it will take quite some time. But to begin the journey you must start with self-acceptance and honest evaluation.

As for affirmations, simply telling yourself the opposite of what you really are really will not solve anything. In fact you won't even actually believe it any way. It's simply wasting your time. Deep down you will know it is not true so it wasted effort. Instead set your affirmations and goals just a little bit ahead of you and as you reach closer move that goal out a little bit more. It is almost like a carrot on a stick. It is close. It is so close that the reality of reaching it is not in any way a fantasy. You can almost touch it. That is the way your goal should be. You can almost and reach and touch it. And once it gets close or your reach it, set out a little bit further. Don't forget to stop and celebrate now then also.

It doesn't matter if it is money, a skill, an emotional tendency, a habit, a job, lifestyle, spiritual quest, or whatever. Simply accept and start from that point.

The same is true with others. Don’t judge them, or try to change them. Accept them, you can always walk away. And if you can’t, as you change they will have to eventually adjust. Acceptance is the starting point but acceptance does not mean giving up. It means looking at the reality and accepting it as a stating point.

The only thing you need to change is your self.

Healing

This is a powerful affirmation. Relax. Smile in your mind. Smile in your eyes. Smile in your heart. Feel the pleasantness of a fond memory.

Affirm:
God is healing me now.

Affirm it over an over 15, 20,25 even 30 minutes if you can concetrate on it that long.